Flower Of The Mind

True love. L.O.V.E. ♥. We’re all addicted!

At a young age, we’ve all been brainwashed with the idea of “true love” in fairy tales. Come on admit it, you’ve also, at one point, hoped to one day find your prince charming or enchanting princess so you can live happily ever after.

Some movies still portray this same storybook image of falling in love. You know; the falling in love uncontrollably with that one person who is meant to be with you and you alone?

We all long for that kind of love. But for most of us, striving for such a thing may leave us unfulfilled and let down. As we grow and as our relationships mature, the true layers of love start to reveal themselves and we begin to realize it’s not all that easy. Yeah sure, it can start with amazing chemistry and a mutual infatuation. But reality is that being and staying in love involves continual work and patience – even though this does not sound entirely romantic.

At times, some of the things we’d hoped for in a relationship are not manifested and we start lamenting what we don’t have. So what do we do? We seek answers from society – family, friends, and maybe even Opera and Dr. Phil and the wisdom they shower us with – and what do we get? Advice. Lots of advice.

A lot of the relationship advice out there speaks of communication and then some more communication topped with a few sprinkles of a potion known as communication. The advice mostly revolves around simply “asking for what you want.” Don’t get me wrong. Yes communication is vital in relationships and “asking for what one wants” is something lovers end up doing at one point or another. Buuuuuut in certain cases and in my opinion, I think this advice is flawed.

I mean correct me if I’m wrong; but doesn’t asking for what we want kind of defeats the whole purpose??? Because what we actually yearn for is this internal satisfaction of feeling significant. And this is only met by our partners  spontaneously expressing – whatever it is we want – solely on their own. Through their sincere adoration derived from within their core, definitely NOT through our commands!

I say; stay away from the whole asking business as much as possible. If you’re not receiving what you desire, demonstrate! Show your loved one what you’d like to receive instead of requesting it. When you feel dissatisfaction, pause and think about it. Maybe your partner shares the same feeling. It’s not a one way highway so treat your significant other the way you anticipate him or her to treat you.

Yes, love is not entirely the same as in fairy tales and movies but that doesn’t mean it can’t be romantic, passionate, spontaneous or amazing. If you accept where you are and how you got here, you’ll finally manifest the abundance that you crave. Show gestures that leave your other feeling valued, important and loved. You will only receive the same in return. Because in the end, everybody wants to love and everybody wants to be loved!