“I have this thing where sometimes, at random times, I would think hard about myself…to find who I am…but then I realize, I don’t know who I am…it’s like I’m out there, I exist…but I don’t really know who I am!?”
A friend, who usually reserves feelings about oneself, shared this with me. I was then asked to blog about it. Ouuuuu, a challenge!
This is how I see it.
When young and fragile, we go through a phase where we struggle to find ourselves. Eventually, we become familiar with ourselves, grow to be stronger individuals and become comfortable as well as confident in our own skin.
I believe we all hold our own philosophy – even if we don’t know it. We acquire our philosophy through; the way we were raised, our surroundings and experiences, our own values, our personal fears and our past achievements or mistakes. This philosophy defines the way we live and why we do the things we do.
We just have to pay attention in order to unearth it. We can do so easily by listening to the choices we make – noting the way we think, feel and react to everyday situations. There are motives behind these choices derived from our philosophy.
Sometimes, we tend to overly identify ourselves with our history and what made us who we are today. This mindset narrows what’s ahead of us. When we rigidly define who we are, we limit ourselves and leave no room for development.
This stops us from realizing that tapping into our philosophy and understanding the reasons of what made us who we are today should actually grant us power.
Since we’re never really one thing or another – we are continually adapting, growing and morphing – that power can help us manipulate our own evolution. We can change our unwanted habits, refine the existing or introduce new ones.
Moral of the story: We all have a philosophy and should tap into it. Instead of a static snapshot, our identity should be viewed as a continuous process. We shouldn’t limit ourselves and rigidly define who we are: we might firmly believe one thing today but, reality is, a certain experience tomorrow might present us with new insights altering our previous values. We should remain flexible, leaving room for growth. We can be whoever we want to be! We just have to envision what we want and start making the necessary choices to transform ourselves.